victim is the new queen work with boys would accompany the boys grow up into a man - here are positive ideas of his boy-in center. Only boys can be helped to develop a confident and strong male identity.
Unfortunately, does the definition of what a real man today, especially still on negative accruals: bear
• the more pain I can
• The less I have someone ask for help and am dependent on someone
• the more I control my emotions and suppress,
• the less I on my body eighth,
more manly I am.
These are just four of the seven masculine imperatives
, after which the male socialization always work far too often. Are very old traditional images of masculinity yet in many minds. When it comes to violence, men are therefore just the perpetrators.
for male victims? It is not surprising that young recourse to concepts like the "victim"? Girls rarely heard from the "victim" talk. It is mainly just a way to project themselves as a boy.
a very enlightening Article , Stephan Voss, head of the National Commission
Berlin against violence drafted on. He noted that the term "victim" not immediately trigger compassion, but also the function has its own identity to ensure a "real" man or boy.
Everything is connected with it -
weakness, neediness, anxiety, have pain - is pushed off to the "victim". Especially with boys who are aware of their male identity not sure that must be averted her own victim-be. The Other is the victim of it myself I'm not.
has a similar function in boys' groups the talk of the "fags" or "gay-be." Supposedly unmanly things - for example, have
to his body, be tender to other men, close to other men look - be averted and as "effeminate" stigmatized, which "does not a real boy."
What can work with boys It is true that boys are often the perpetrators of violence. But they are in most cases, victims of violence. This must be recognized and accepted.
boy must therefore work to create places within which boys may also be victims of their central theme. Places where young can see that you also may be tender to other boys - but are automatically gay. reinterpret
